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While the third world countries are struggling with issues such as food shortage, unemployment, illiteracy, population control, low per capita income, inflation, communal and casteist struggles, poverty, natural calamities, insufficient resources, utilities and infrastructure, health and hygiene etc, the United States and many countries in Europe are fighting and arguing about something that most people in the world are not even able to think about -‘Gay Parenting’!

It’s such a big debate that the proponents of the Gay movement say, “The last decade has seen a sharp rise among gay people planning and forming families through adoption, foster care, donor insemination, and other reproductive technologies. The current period can therefore also be called a lesbian and gay ‘baby boom.’”

Gays and lesbians are stepping up their battle worldwide against restrictive state regulations, conservative religions (read christians), and others to gain the same parenting rights as heterosexuals. This debate gained intensity after the Americal Academy of Pediatrics declared, “A growing body of scientific literature demonstrates that children who grow up with one or two gay or lesbian parents fare as well in emotional, cognitive, social, and sexual functioning as do children whose parents are heterosexual.”

As the divided and confused western society tries to prove the superiority of it’s respective views to itself and to the world, the real victims in the whole big drama are the children. Unaware of the push-pull happening over what could be the best way of bringing them up, be it under social, religious or political behests or be it wearing the conservative or liberal masks, the kids are being made guinea pigs and are also subjected to myriad surveys, questionnaires and research projects! They are being experimented upon.

Born to a woman and fathered by a man (be it naturally or in vitro), the children who are brought into this world by the combined contributions of both these genders needs to be brought up with the combined inputs and efforts of both the genders too. I mean, if both the genders were needed to bring the kids to being, I suppose, its natural, rational and logical to expect both the genders to be involved for as long as possible too.

Blaming the DNA for their differently inclined instincts, LGBTs (Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and Transgenders) do not want to let go of the opportunity to raise up a generation after them. Of course brought into this world through a heterosexual relationship, they want to nurture it and bring up this children under the influence and “care(?)” of a homosexual relationship! Many a states in the United States and some countries in Europe have now legalised ‘Gay Parenting’!

The opponents of this legislation/law argue against it mainly on the grounds of the inability of the children to understand the gender roles and also the future sexual orientation of these kids. They also allege that these kids often end up as abusers in the future. The Gay Parenting proponents rubbish these claims with lots of test and survey reports to prove otherwise.

Now, whatever be the results of survey and research and of course their debates and arguments, I am glad I had “normal” parents when I was growing up and even now. I learnt different things from both my father and my mother. They both have imparted their bit. Though initially I thought that they were perfect people, later on I realised that they were not, but nevertheless, I am proud of them and I love them. I look back and see how they struggled to give not only the best of resources and facilities for me but also the best of themselves too. My mother gave me the values and knitted my basic belief framework, while my father lived it out (tried his level best) and became my inspiration and role model. My mother defined love and hospitality, my father defined compassion and strength. My mother corrected me when I was younger and my Father guided and stood by me when I became older. My mother talked a lot into me, my Father impressed me deeply with his silence. There is so much more to say!

And now, I and my wife are trying to do and be the same for our kids too. We both surely want them to have the best of us and moreover we also see a bit of ourselves and each other in them too. But much more than all that is an opportunity to relook at our own growing up stages and the marvel of God’s creative wonder and perfection unfolding before us in the form of the various stages of growth of our kids and everything enjoined. Its a pleasure, its exciting and its a privilege too. We wish every father and mother to do it for themselves and for their kids.

However, in every argument that is increasingly held on this planet, the Creator is left out of the equation. Its assumed that whatever we are and have today has evolved just because of the choices of our “brilliant(!??)” ancestors and we need to continue the tradition in making choices of our own. ‘Gay Parenting’ is surely one such liberties that we are taking.

The Bible says that God made them man and woman, Adam and Eve. What God has put together, let no man put asunder. We now, the post modern man, want it to be Adam and Steve or Madam and Eve! Even they struggled in their parental roles and ended up ‘Raising Cain’! I wonder what the ‘Gay Parents’ will raise!

Tags: Adam and Eve, Bisexuals and Transgenders, Gay Parenting, Gays, Lesbians

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