Can This be Altered Please?
By: Pooja (April 8th, 2008)“mmm… this dress does not suit me…give me another one”….well this statement is old. Now the trend has changed.
Now it sounds like this…”mmm… this nose does not suit my face structure, give me another one!!!”
Shocked?? I was, when I learned about this new trend that is “in” among the youth of this generation particularly the teens. Today, the teens are ready for undergoing an operation at a very young age for making the desired “alterations” in their body for the “feel-good” factor. It supposedly makes them more confident and boosts up their morale. They are even ready to suffer the side effects of these operations in order to look good.
When i thought about it, i realized that people are unable to love and accept themselves; they fail to do so and thus want to change themselves. But why do they fail to love and accept themselves at the first place? Because they are rejected by the society, by friends, colleagues, batch-mates, teachers, siblings, and sadly even by the parents in many cases for the way these teens look. They are taunted, pointed out, made fun of by everyone and continuously compared to the ones who look smarter and better than them which slowly shatter the child’s morale and confidence to face life and people inside and outside the home. More often than not, the comparison happens inside the family itself, between the siblings; or it happens at schools and college between classmates, which in turn not only pulls down the child and makes him/her a victim but also, ruins the relationship at home and school/society.
People need love. Whoever they are, they need Love and Acceptance, if no where else then at least inside their home: the first institution the child comes in contact with. When one fails to get that deserved love, acceptance and security at home, they become insecure and desperate and try to “earn” it instead. In search of earning this love and acceptance, they look out of the home, in the society, in the world. But this world doesn’t accept just anything and anyone… just like that. And so, to be accepted by the world, our kids become “that” which the world accepts, desires and demands.
If you don’t influence your children, somebody else will
If you don’t shape your children, somebody else will
If you don’t mould your children, somebody else will
If you don’t lead your children, somebody else will
If you don’t become the role model/ ideal for your children, somebody else will
If you don’t love and accept your children, nobody else will……
…at least not in the way the parents love their children and not in the same original form and way the parents accept their children. Your children are in your hands and have been entrusted to you by the Almighty and the choice is yours. Do you want to accept them the way they are and love them unconditionally to help them love and accept themselves and help them become the INDIVIDUAL and UNIQUE PERSON they are originally designed to become OR you want to leave them in the hands of a corrupt and strange world which wants to manipulate and alter everyone and everything not only physically but in all possible aspects into its own mould according to its own desire and satisfaction.
Your children and your choice is in your hands…think and DECIDE before its too late and these little souls are out of your hands and reach.
HELP the original design to be original without any manipulations or ALTERATIONS…
GOD BLESS
Tags: Body makeover, Comparison, External Beauty, Side effects, Taare Zameen Par
May 3rd, 2008 at 11:28 pm
Dear Pooja, well said. Being true to oneself seems to be the most difficult thing these days…in this age of popcorn emotions, true love has gotten lost behind mother’s day-father’s day-valentine’s day cards and red roses. As for the widening gap between the aspirations of children and parents, there’s nothing good old communication cant solve