(Plunk)…..It’s a Boy!!!
By: Geo (March 25th, 2008)
Neither the girl nor her parents nor any of her pokey neighbours nor even her over-advising relatives could detect that the bulge was not because she was becoming plump but because there was a little human being developing inside her.
Now, to begin with, I feel the entire incident does poke fun of the routine medical rituals that doctors make to-be mothers to go through. The multi-vitamin, the iron tablets, the calcium and all. This 15 year old went without all that to deliver a healthy child at that. What about the sonography after 3 months and after 6 and the one around the time of delivery. The check on the levels of amniotic fluid, the size of the head and the beat of the heart, all looks like a joke! And what about the super extra care taken during the delivery? This boy fell with a thud into the closet bowl but survived and is well. He has ‘nine’ lives? Now I don’t intend to deride all these checks and reports, but for once, this girl’s story has made a public spectacle of the medical fraternity.
More shameful is the role that parents played in this case. They could not restrain her from having flings with some boy who was just interested in fun and insemination! Maybe it was all an accident. Maybe not. However, the fact is that pre-marital sex is growing in spread and acceptance. The parents could not detect the pregnancy even after the sixth month! That’s very odd, because the shape of the belly is very conspicuous after the sixth month and its definitely different than a plumpiness. She would have missed her menses too for such a long time, but nothing was discussed even with her mother. What a mother?! Maybe she is a working woman? The trends in our society are very disturbing.
The girl had eaten some contraceptive pills after her fling. Doctors opine that perhaps she had it too late, or perhaps she indulged in sex even after having had it. The first question is, how did she procure the drug without a prescription? Oh, such rules don’t apply in India. Quacks may have prescribed it and that too for a ‘measly amount’. She knew about sex and contraception but had no know-how of how a pregnancy is? Well, she didn’t know how then, but now, on hindsight, she surely has known it well.
I agree that my tone is definitely not very polished and polite in this particular blog, but the recollection of the incident really makes me go aghast. I can’t help but display being sarcastic and punitive at this point of time.
We really need to look at what we have got in the name of ‘Freedom’. Is freedom meaningful without ‘Accountability’? I am talking about freedom at all levels. Every man has the right to be free but he has no right to endanger or become a threat to someone else’s freedom.
The mystery father endangered the teenage girl by involving in an activity that was criminal in the first place and ‘equivalent to rape’ despite the fact that it was consensual. The girl endangered the child inside. The family endangered the girl and the child, both. Now being an illegitimate child, the entire society will pose a threat to his identity and existence for the rest of his life.
Likewise in every incident of overt and unbridled use of freedom, we end up contravening and desecrating unseen and undefined boundaries of someone else’s freedom.
Do not kill, honor your parents, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not lie and do not desire after someone else’s possession et cetera are not commands to constrain and restrain us into slavery and bondage but well-thought and divine dictats to “live and let live”. Abiding by these will only make our society civilized. Yes, you are right, these commands are mentioned in the Bible.
But print and the study of the print will not change our ways and thinking. We need some real metamorphosis deep inside of us, that will change us thoroughly.
(Plunk)….Jesus changed me. You are welcome too.
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March 27th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
Good..
…Instead of taking a stand against all these things, the girls themselves are supporting it!
These kinds of articles can really bring lot many changes in the society..
April 1st, 2008 at 6:19 pm
Hi I visited this blog for the first time (thanks to my friend Vinay Umarji) and have found it brilliant. The author is absolutely right. This incident was an unbelievable example of callousness on the part of the parents and the young girl and her partner…and would like to reassure the author that his tone is absolutely justified….freedom thats unaccountable isnt freedom at all
April 6th, 2008 at 9:53 pm
Has the author ASSUMED that it was a fling the girl went for before and after the pregnency?
Has the author taken for granted that the matter was discussed with the mother?What if the mother was a step mother,who did not care sufficiently?There are many cases of sexual abuse by the family members(father,brother,uncle,etc) themselves?What other OPTION did the girl have besides delivering the baby after discovering that she is pregnant?
Can you please specify whom are you being sarcastic about?
I feel the entire issue needs compassion and prayer.
Even when the adulterous women was brought to Jesus to be judged, He wrote something on the sand and EVERYONE left…
April 8th, 2008 at 11:26 pm
Thanks for your response Margaret.
Well, you are right. It could have been a case of incest. However, the paper cites no such possibilities so we can’t speak about it unless we know more.
The easiest assumption is to assume a third person.
When a 15 year old does things of this magnitude, despite her seriousness and commitment into the relationship, it still can only be categorised as a fling. Infact, its a criminal offense under Indian law, despite mutual consent. The guy can be arrested.
The TOI reports that neither the girl nor her relatives had any clue of hers being pregnant, let alone talk about it. No one knew about it!
I am not sarcastic about anyone in person, because, neither their names or people group or religion or caste is mentioned. I am sarcastic about the whole casualness to pre-marital sex that is emerging throughout India and the results of it.
You are right about compassion and prayer. First compassion and then prayer. When we encounter such people, that’s the way we try to approach, and more so if we are cognizant of it. But prayers without compassion are not of much benefit. Without knowing anything about the case, being compassionate is a good trait but the result remains to be in an area of probablity rather than certainity.
Thanks for your feedback Its appreciated. It keeps the blogs balanced and throws up perspectives that we may sometimes miss out on. So keep doing it. God bless.