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Poison kills!!??
There is no need to add “kills” behind the word “Poison”. The word “Poison” itself is enough for even a small child to understand, what it does. However, I still chose to title this blog that way, because, sometimes, despite knowing many things, many people under-estimate or misinterpret the effect of the various kinds of poison that they consume or absorb. It is poison, and yet they almost relish it. Its time to shout, “Poison kills, Poison kills!!”

I will talk about “Bitterness“, a big time killer. It sprouts from “Unforgiveness“. How difficult it is to sometimes forgive someone for the way they hurt us? The tendency to not forgive is at times directly proportional to the intensity of the relationship and also to the intensity of the hurt. It becomes more difficult when our own people hurt us. We all, sometime or the other, suffer with this emotion of being hurt and of nurturing unforgiveness and slowly growing bitter inside.

Bitterness is a slow poison that kills bit by bit. I repeat bitterness kills “Us” bit by bit, not the other person. What a pity! But even more painful is the fact that we all know all this and yet struggle at times to forgive and get rid of the bitterness. So what’s the solution??

I have found the solution in “Forgiving”. I know it is not easy to forgive but anyhow it’s a NEED. It’s a necessity not for the other person but for us. As much as food is necessary for us to be alive and fit, so is it important for us not to consume this poison in order to save our lives. It will help us to be fit and healthy. I am fascinated and I fully agree with what a great writer pens down about unforgiveness and bitterness. She says, “Unforgiveness and bitterness is like consuming the poison and waiting for the other person to die.” So true! Don’t we all do that?

If we do not forgive others, we are putting ourselves in a state of torture. Who among us like to be tortured? I am sure none of us. So why take a risk? Be slow to anger and quick to forgive, that’s the key to a joyful and peaceful life. When we keep bitterness or anger inside and allow it to grow, when we don’t forgive, we become quite critical and judgmental towards others. We lose our faith in human values. We become TERRIBLE SANDPAPERS and end up rubbing terribly against other people. As sandpaper - rough on all sides - we will hurt others, deshape them, pull off their skin and make them bleed. We will become dangerous for everyone.

Now it’s not necessary that when we forgive, we’ll forget too. It takes time. It’s not that the moment we forgive, we’ll not feel angry or hurt anymore. NO! We will. We may feel terrible about it but what is needed is that we don’t act according to our emotions, but according to love. When we get a chance to get even with the other person, to settle accounts or take revenge, we say “NO”! We choose to act in love. Now, that takes a lot of guts and that’s real strength.

When someone hurts us or deals cruely or unfairly, the natural and the human tendency is to take revenge and until we don’t do that, we ourselves are in a tormented state; whereas the other person may be enjoying life. But, in spite of having all valid reasons to get even with our oppressor, if we manage, rather choose to forgive, smile and not let anything steal our joy, then it’s like putting burning coals on the head of our oppressor. Yes. Give it a try.

I believe that there is a reason in suffering, a purpose, even in suffering wrong. God, who is a loving father, does not allow us to suffer for no reason. So instead of being bitter and eventually becoming sandpaper, rubbing against others, we should thank the Almighty for helping us fulfil the purpose which he has for us, for our good, as His plans are always for our good. So let’s not become bitter and angry and hinder his good purpose for our life, rather partake in it and become co-workers with Him.

The example set by Christ amazes me. He went through so many hardships which we can’t even imagine. Jesus was beaten up by Roman soldiers thoroughly and yet He didn’t open His mouth except to plead to the Father to forgive His transgressors. He has left us an example of highest order and degree.

I think we should remember that our lives (the way we live it), as we portray to others, is the very reflection (projection) of the abundance inside our hearts. So its important to check what is in abundance in us. Is it love, forgiveness, grace, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control? Or is it selfishness, unforgiveness, hatred, bitterness, judgment, revengeful attitude, criticism, restlessness, doubt, and lack of self control?

Once we find the answer to the above questions, I think we can also trace the roots, the source of this abundance. We will be able to identify whose purpose we are fulfilling and whose imitators we are becoming. And eventually what kind of “food” we are consuming.

BEWARE of unforgivness and bitterness!!! It is a POISON. It will kill!! FORGIVE…It will SAVE!! Let me also add that it takes more than commitment, guts and good intentions to “forgive” someone. I got divine help. We all will need it.

(Matt.18:21-35)”…In anger, his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured until he should pay back all he owed. This is how my Heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart.”

GOD BLESS

Tags: forgiveness, poison, torture, Unforgiveness

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