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Pooja Says: 12th Sep 2008 11:38:07 PM I wonder what drives people to get into such relationships. Do they really feel these are true relations? Are people really seeking a relationship when getting into a live-in? As there is no commitment as such, is there any stability and strength in such relations? Does it always end up in marriage? If not...then what? yet another one? and then....?? Just putting in thoughts...will keep coming back
Geo Says: 16th Sep 2008 11:33:33 AM What are the various reasons why one would go in for a live-in relationship as an alternative to marriage. people who are in such a relationship would mostly tell you that they want to get married eventually. So why don't they? Maybe they're trying it out so that they learn the pleasures and problems of married life. Maybe they're just too much in love and want to see each other every second they get, taking advantage of the fact that they're responsible adults and know what they're doing. Because you learn more about each other this way than you would if you were in a normal `living separately' bond. But then what if: What if the relationship turns sour after you start living together? Do you just abandon it and move on? And if you do, do you ignore the way the outside world talks about you? What if your comfort extends, and you find yourself pregnant? Do you move on and call it bad luck if neither of you wants to keep the child? And what if there is abuse? How then do you call it off and return to your family?
Pooja Says: 18th Sep 2008 06:14:41 AM The reason why one chooses to go for a live-in relationship as an alternative to marriage in my opinion is convenience. the partners in a live-in will be together only till the relationship meets their needs, rather their wants and desires. In marriage its about commitment. It takes a lot of conscious effort to adjust to the needs of the partner and make a choice to love and keep the covenant. There is always more security in Marriage than live-in...security for one's own self and for the kids...security in terms of physical, mental, emotional, financial etc. People choose to get into live-in relationships just for trying and finding out "the right partner" for themselves......who knows whether they would like the person they get married to or if he/she is the kind of person they were looking for....but as the saying goes... "Happiness in marriage is not so much FINDING the right person as BEING the right person."
Vinay Says: 23rd Sep 2008 07:21:51 AM The most luring part of live-in relationship is 'freedom' that it brings with it. I mean, freedom from commitment. The doors are, in a way, always open for entry and exit. But when people opt for it, they forget that what they give is what they get. So while none of them want to offer their commitment, financial support, etc., they do (although they may not confess overtly) hope and long for the same. There are no rules in live-in relationships, and as they say, 'only sinking ships have no rules'. It's dangerous!
Anonymous Says: 8th Oct 2008 03:39:48 PM Live-in relationships are done by the most hypocrite persons of this earth. They try to portray it as a high society stuff or something which is very common in the high class society. By agreeing on a Live-in relationship, the boy as well as the girl, deceive themselves. If its the guy who has initiated the talks then believe me, there is only one thing in his mind, "SEX". Sex is something which is supposed to be Holy. Terms like Live-in relationship has degraded the value of Love. Give me just one example of any live-in relationship which has not ended with physical relation. Guys, Open ur eyes and don't degrade urself with such down market stuff which is portrayed as a High Society stuff.
jisha Says: 8th Dec 2008 09:23:16 PM live in relation ship is just another name given to sin .sin always comes in beautiful packages.the world excepts it cause they want to be tagged right in what they r doing .they want to do this coz they know what they r doing is wrong.evrybody wants security to do what is wrong.they justify and rationalize their doings by taging it with wondeful names(the recent bombings the worst of terrorist is worried about his security)
alok Says: 14th Dec 2008 10:07:53 AM livin relationships are like open swords... matured ppl cure a patient while another person might murder with it!!! it all depends how YOU are and not what relationship you are into...
Santosh Says: 16th Dec 2008 04:57:30 AM Live in Relations are adopted by people who don't want to get committed, they want to try it out before being bounded by rules and regulations...
Jayshree Says: 17th Dec 2008 04:50:14 AM The term ‘live-in’ comes to India from foreign land; they have lived it longer and have survived it better than us. We have our ancestors belonging to a race that has been very orthodox and less flexible when it comes to trial and error of love relations. We have been blindly following the rules of love; nobody yet dared to challenge it. Though a few of today’s generation has taken the challenge and they are experimenting with themselves, nobody knows how to describe its failure or success; for me ‘live-in’ is a term with no assurance and is full of threat. Personally I don’t think I have that guts in me to trust a man so much, neither the faith in myself to bind with a relation that has no name or is been taken as a cheap act in our society.
Geo Says: 17th Dec 2008 09:11:39 PM The foreign lands have survived it better than us Jayshree? How was that conclusion reached? Isn't it highly subjective!! I think we have at least 3500 years of recorded history in our land. Don't you think that in that much time and with as many people as we have had throughout history, we as a people have done all kinds of trials and errors on love relationships... we surely have. the foreign land you are talking about only has 300 years of history to its credit... I think the orthodoxy of our culture was not because our people were afraid to try new options in relationships, but probably they realized that we all hurt and have been hurting in the same ways thru the centuries (despite all the other developments in society) and there was need to protect relationships in a certain way for the good of all... I mean, despite all progress, our feelings and expectations and dynamics inside human relationships hasn't changed over thousands of year... a live-in relationship works well as long as it works well (this applies to marriage too) but when it falls apart the cushion is absent or almost absent... while in a marriage the possibility of a cushion is much more... though i agree that the state of marriages today doesn't vouch for what i say.... but then... marriages have been let downs and thus the main reason for the rise of live-in relationships... the thrust in a 'live in' relationship is freedom while in a marriage - the thrust in on collaboration... In a time, when man has become more self-oriented (am avoiding the usage of the more derogatory term - selfish, so that a majority doesn't get offended), 'marriage' is slowly being edged out and beaten up.... edged out by live-in relationship and beaten up by infidelity and divorces...
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